Family Mediation FAQs

Answers to the questions we are asked most often about family mediation. If your question is not covered here, call us on 0333 567 1676 or book your MIAM online.

What is family mediation?

Family mediation is a process in which an impartial mediator helps family members discuss and resolve conflicts, particularly around separation or divorce. It is a voluntary and confidential way to make arrangements about finances, property and children.

What is a MIAM?

MIAM stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. It is the meeting where you learn about mediation and your other options, and the mediator assesses whether mediation is suitable. It is usually the first step in the process, and for most court applications it is a legal requirement.

Is family mediation legally binding?

Agreements reached in family mediation are not, in themselves, legally binding. If both parties wish, the agreement can be made binding by turning it into a consent order approved by the court.

How long does family mediation take?

It depends on the complexity of the issues and how readily both parties reach agreement. Many families complete mediation in a small number of sessions, which is usually far quicker than going to court.

Do I need a solicitor for family mediation?

No, it is not mandatory to have a solicitor, though independent legal advice alongside mediation can be helpful. The mediator provides impartial guidance but does not give legal advice to either party.

Is family mediation confidential?

Yes. Mediation is a confidential and legally privileged process, and discussions held in mediation are generally not disclosed to the court. There is an important exception: financial information disclosed during mediation is provided on an open basis and may be referred to later, for example in a court application. Your mediator will explain what is and is not privileged at the outset.

What happens if we cannot reach an agreement in mediation?

You may reach agreement on some issues and not others. Where agreement cannot be reached, you can consider other forms of non-court dispute resolution, such as arbitration or collaborative law, or, as a last resort, apply to court.

Can I bring someone with me to mediation?

Mediation is generally between the parties to the dispute. If you feel you would benefit from a support person, discuss this with your mediator, who will consider what is appropriate.

Is family mediation suitable for everyone?

Mediation is suitable for most cases, but it may not be appropriate where there is domestic abuse or a significant power imbalance. The mediator assesses suitability at the MIAM, and these concerns are also recognised as exemptions from the requirement to attend a MIAM.

How much does family mediation cost?

We aim to keep our fees simple and transparent.

• MIAM: around an hour, £130.
• Mediation sessions: £130 per person, per hour. Sessions usually run for one and a half hours, so a typical session is £195 per person.
• Court certificate: if you decide not to mediate (it is voluntary), we issue your court certificate within 24 hours of your MIAM.

Appointments outside our normal business hours may attract an enhanced fee. Where the main issue is child arrangements, you may be eligible for the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme, a non-means-tested government contribution of up to £500 (jointly) towards your mediation sessions, now extended to March 2027. To make an appointment, call 0333 567 1676 or book your MIAM online.

What is the role of a family mediator?

A family mediator facilitates the discussion, helps identify the issues, and assists both parties in exploring and agreeing solutions. They remain neutral and impartial throughout, and do not take sides or give legal advice.

Can children be involved in the mediation process?

Yes, where it is appropriate and in their best interests. Through Child Inclusive Mediation, a specially trained mediator can give children a safe opportunity to express their views, which can then be taken into account.

What are the benefits of family mediation over going to court?

Mediation is typically faster, less stressful and more cost-effective than court. It also keeps the decisions affecting your family in your hands rather than a judge’s, and helps preserve a workable relationship for the future.

What if my ex-partner refuses to attend mediation?

Mediation is voluntary, so the other party can decline. If they do, you can consider other forms of non-court dispute resolution or apply to court. Since April 2024, a party who unreasonably refuses to attend a MIAM or consider non-court dispute resolution may face costs consequences in court.

How do I prepare for family mediation?

Think about what you want to discuss, gather any relevant documents (such as financial information where money or property is involved), and consider the needs and interests of everyone affected, including any children.